Random Thoughts Series: ‘Love is No Fairy-tale! It’s all Wagamama!’

She thought time will be the best healer, and she still in some way do! She also knew that we can’t easily forget what a person made us feel. Do we miss the person that provided us with the feeling or do we miss the feeling? She kept trying to find the answer. Needless to say, she had no success!  Or maybe she is not in the position to find an answer yet. 

She has never been in love and for the majority of her life she was convinced that such a feeling is just a mere delusion! Until recently, this was her argument.  

She never thought that she would allow herself to be a prisoner of such emotion, proud in her head that she is stronger than falling for anything! She thought she was a logical person who was never going to surrender her heart!  

And she was absolutely wrong! How did she know that? Because she finally felt it aching!  

Expressing her deep feelings was something she was never good at, even between her and herself she never knew what is it she was feeling when she sat opposite him eating her Harusame Noodles in a very hilarious way. What is it she was feeling when they watched ‘Mr. Deed’ laying on his bed? Or when they had that lovely walk around the lake! She thought she just liked him a little more than a friend and definitely she was attracted to him! 

What she knew is that the moment they decided to stop for their own reasons, she felt her heart aching in a completely different way! She thought it’s for the best for both of them and was very grateful that they can still be in each other’s lives from afar!  

Since then she had been waiting for that ache to lessen! And she thought it did, until she was asked out for dinner. It was a lovely romantic restaurant and she sat opposite her date, she felt that ach again and was doing her best to fight the tears.  

How much she hoped it was him and how much she wanted it to be at Wagamam’s where they usually met. She didn’t care what else they would be doing as long as they were in each other’s company. As long she heard his laugh that turns awkward sometimes but she still loved it! When he held her between his arms, she felt a warmth she never felt before. 

 And she knew at that moment that it wasn’t what he made her feel that made him special, but that it was him. Everything about him was amazing in her eyes, even his laziness or his workaholic life pattern. For her he was perfect but she knew it was probably the wrong time! Maybe they will be maybe they won’t, but she knew that she has to live with this ache for a while! At least she can tell her future self that she tried!  

What else can she do when fate is not on her side? He will always have a special place in her heart! 

For All The Samas!

Last Saturday, I watched the remarkable documentary ‘For Sama’ on channel 4. The documentary showed the Syrian revolution through the eyes of Waad Al- Kateab as a mother and as a woman.  

‘For Sama’, was Waad’s way of documenting to her daughter, Sama (which means ‘sky’ in Arabic), why Waad and her husband, Hamza, decided to remain in Aleppo and not flee like many of the Aleppo citizens did! It was the same reason the Syrian revolution started! Freedom! And to gain freedom back to the people of Syria, the Syrian people had to be resilient and not give into the threats imposed by any party trying to compromise the freedom of Syrian people. Sacrifices had to be made and most of them were very costly. But Waad and her husband alongside many of the Aleppo citizens were astonishingly strong in the face of all the destruction, attacks, targeting and the unmerciful siege. Standing up for their cause and freedom, documenting and reporting to the rest of the world the atrocities occurring on the ground against civilians. With no discrimination of its victims, air strikes were carried out on a regular basis. 

The documentary was heartbreaking, and you must be warned that the content is highly sensitive. By the end of the documentary my heart had mixed and complex o feelings. I was happy that Waad and her family made it to safety, but also shared Waad’s heartache of feeling that sacrifice was in vain.

The fact that many of the children in conflict areas only know the sky full of jet fighters; the sky for them is where those bombs come from is a brutal and bitter reality. Many of these children were born in the war and so for them the sound of explosions caused by air strikes is something of daily occurrence. Many of them can name the different kinds of weapons used for attacking their cities as well as identifying them, barrel bombs, Kalashnikovs, cruise missiles to chlorine gas. The first word some of these children could have said would be ‘strike’ or ‘siege’.    

On one hand, remaining in the midst of such unbearable situation as a parent could be seen as one of two things. ‘To leave the city would set the worst example to the children that it’s better to be selfish to run and save yourself’; on the other hand, by staying meant that you are ‘putting them through hell’ as Waad suggests in the documentary.    

I can hardly imagine the stress, and fear they must live in. Yet, their hope of an equal Syria, a free Syria is higher than those fighter jets could ever fly and deeper than those strikes could possibly reach. Many of Syrian people choose to stay in their homeland, in the cities the grew up in, on the sands they first learnt to walk over. And although the air is polluted with suffocating dust, poisoning chemicals, and deadly smoke caused by the daily airstrikes; they will never forget the sweet smell of the beautiful Ash-Shâm.  

I can imagine how hard it was for Waad to document some of the horrible moments of people being carried dead before they arrive to the hospital that Waad’s husband, Hamza, had established with others from Aleppo. But she felt that by reporting these magnified inhuman circumstances, it would lead to the international world reacting in the most human way there is. Millions around the world have joined Waad in the hope that, when the international world becomes aware of the miserable and cruel situation that civilians have been put through for the mere fact that they asked for their inherited right to be free, the appropriate measures will be taken to help those civilians. Instead, they were told that their only way to survive is to surrender. 

How devastating must it’ve been for them to leave their beloved Aleppo, not knowing for definite whether their children will have the opportunity to see their motherland! But the hope that they will be the ones building it remains in their hearts and souls no matter how far they went. 

One of the things I liked about the documentary, was that Waad showed the beautiful side that no siege or air strikes could ever kill.

Love!

The way people were hand in hand through the struggle. Each doing what they can to help others. The caring for friends, neighbours, and strangers was tremendous!  

Although, the situation in Aleppo was only getting worse, the laughs, the celebration of love and unity, and the lovely sense of humour people had never disappeared!  

But the reality is, that a nation can rise above all the destruction that have been made! Weapons can kill millions and demolish cities, but it could never kill the hope that a nation have of becoming free!  

Around the globe there are millions that are standing in the face of injustice and corruption! The sacrifices they go through are beyond imagination! The power these nations represent is extraordinary! 

Because, standing for what is humanly right and just is a strong feeling that makes us stronger than the weapons human kind invented. It is a higher level of power that cannot be reached or eliminated!    

It makes the sacrifices we made never go in vain no matter how long we have to wait!

The Harsh Reality About Love!

Extinction Rebellion

In short terms, love cannot stand on its own defeating the atrocities, the hunger, the suffering of the innocent, or our collapsing eco system. 

I have been following, like many people in the UK or elsewhere, the protests against the nearly non-existing environment policies, laws and practice! Two days ago, the Extinction Rebellion protestors in London took the protests to another level. Climbing on to trains at Stratford, Canning Town and Shadwell in the early morning hours. Morning commuters did not take that easily and many of them resorted to dragging the protesters from the top of the train. Not only that but some of the angry commuters started kicking and hitting the said protestors as well, Elliot Laughlin, an independent journalist who was recording the incident.

Two things had puzzled me about the Extinction Rebellion incident above; 

1- The way that commuters dealt with the situation by resorting to violence.  

Now, I know that the whole idea of “disruption is necessary” to highlight an urging global threat might not be the best idea. But what does the commuters’ reaction, the kicking and the hitting, tell us about the behavior of some human beings?  

Was the delaying of the trains, and causing the commuters to arrive late to their jobs, justifying enough to the act of violence towards the protestors? Had there been no sensible and rational people, as well as the police, at that time stopping the aggression towards the activists and equally towards individual journalists such as Elliot Laughlin, things might have escalated really badly!! 

Then I remembered a conversation I had with a dear friend of mine about how people in certain moments do justify the resorting to violence as a matter of human nature! Do we sympathies with the protestors, who out of love have justified the ‘disruption’ or do we sympathies with the commuters who were concerned about getting to work that provides food for their children!! 

Are both wrong in the way they wanted to protect what each side thought more important? Or are both sides right of doing what have been done out of love to each side’s cause respectively?   

2- What one of the commuters said to one of the Extinction Rebellion activists setting in a protesting manner by the train: “we haven’t got the time to think about stuff”! 

Nonetheless, this is the reality!! We carry busy lives that makes thinking about other things seems impossible. Even if it was about the very planet we are living on! Even if it was about the suffering, the tragedies, the complete atrocities and inhumanity that is going on around the globe!  

Let us face it! We are very self-centered, but that is what our lives have become! Robotic! Emotionless! Inhumane! Our hearts might be aching for our fellow human beings in other parts of the world or even on our local streets! But what steps can we take to help! Our brains are washed to only follow the society’s standards of life! We, therefore, shall construct our lives as the following: get a job, preferably a 9 am –5 pm five days a week job; buy a house; get married and have kids…  

Please, do not take my words in the wrong way. Because I do not think that there is anything wrong with that! Instead, what I think is wrong is the following: not having much thought about the world you are going to bring your children into, the lessons you are going to teach them about humanity, the kind of miserable life to work yourself out for a job that pays you little to what you think is justified to the amount of work you do compared to the profit you generate! 

Again, I do not mean any disrespect by saying the above and I, for one, fall within that description trying to find my way as a human being rather than a profit generator for no particular good cause!  

I know it is because we love our families, or the ones we are responsible to provide for, and that is the reason for us keeping up with the exhausting hours at work! Love is the reason behind starting a family and bringing children to this world! But love is also the reason humanity will never die! Because our love for justice, our love for equality, our love for a safer and healthy eco system is the reason behind our rebellious, our resilience, our courage to stand against what is wrong! But it is never the reason behind violence or disruption! You see the reason behind that is FEAR!    

Fear is the reason behind using violence to shot peaceful protestors in the Middle East. Fear is the reason behind the Chinese concentration camps for Muslims. Fear is the reason behind the use of chemical weapons in Syria, and the targeting of civilians in Yemen. And it is fear the actual reason for ignoring these atrocities!! Fear to lose power! Fear of economic loss! Fear and just pure fear!  

Our love to what is humane, to what is just, is stronger than fear. That is why human beings never give up in the face of the wrong and the unjust! 

In short terms, love is only the fuel to our endless passion to a fairer and equal society, a just system, and a healthier safer environment for our next generations. It is the way we translate that passion into something meaningful, that advances our society and help protect what is important to the next generations, what really matters the most! 

Lots of love!  

Random Thoughts Series: “It’s October and That’s How I Know”

I don’t know whether it is the dull weather lately but I have been feeling a bit lazy and gloomy. My daily routine does not allow me the luxury to be lazy. With early long morning commute, I leave my house before the sunrise. Some days I love it because of the beauty represented in the sky and the refreshing early morning air, but most days I just wish I could stay in bed for an extra hour. I would not describe myself as a very active person, while I jug every now and then, practice self-defence weekly, and exercise when I feel like it, I would not run a quarter of a marathon. But once autumn starts, I get less energetic in terms of being outdoor and the idea of a cup of hot chocolate with cream and a sprinkle of cinnamon and a nice book in hand sounds more appealing! 

This year has gone by so fast and here we are three months away from yet another new year. Now, you may be better than me in realising the change of seasons, or maybe the ‘Pumpkin Spice Latte’ almost in every coffee shop has notified you of the beginning of the spooky season!!  

But for me, I realised that every autumn I go on a book shopping spree. Stocking for the upcoming longer nights leaving myself spoilt for choice. With being over excited about my expanding little library I almost never finish reading all the books I have before buying new ones. Not that I mind doing so, but I think that there is something more psychological behind the fact that some of us buy new books before even getting near reading all the books we already have. 

Every time I repeat the same behaviour, I question my relationship with literature almost to the point where I am considering prohibiting myself from buying more books until I am done with the ones I have.  Passing by a bookstore makes my hands itchy wanting to get one more, and I tell myself “just one more”. But why? When I have four unread books sitting on my shelf and realising that only in rare occasions that books get sold out!!!! 

 Few years ago, I tried buying an online copy of any book I fancied, and that didn’t last very long! Don’t get me wrong, I enjoyed the convenience of having one device where I can access any of my chosen books without carrying them around. But I have to admit I love the feeling of a book between my hands, and the sensation of turning each page as I go by is unexplainably a wonderful one especially when reading a novel!   

Books are one of the most beautiful things that we create. Each have a whole world between its covers. The places a book can take us are far more than the destinations any other transport method does. What is even better, is the fact that no passport or boarders exist. Places where reality is a dream and dreams are reality. Where we can travel from one universe to the other freely and with no limits. The ways a book can thrill us are way better than a Halloween night in a spooky graveyard.  

Regardless, I cannot justify the overloading of my library!  Maybe reading all the unread books on my shelf before buying new ones should be on my next New Year resolution (rolling eye!!!) You know what? How about we don’t get on that topic just yet!?   

No One Is Above The Law and Other Lies!

If you have been following up the news lately, then you might have noticed the hypocrisy in the global system we currently live within. And if like me, you might have rolled your eyes over the political series of hypocrisy. 

In a not so surprising move, the UK’s Prime Minister Boris Johnson unlawfully suspended the Parliament, leaving the real possibilities of preventing him from acting unlawfully close to none.  

Similarly, in the US a formal impeachment investigation of the country’s President Donald Trump is being pushed ahead by the Democrats. In a statement, Nancy Pelosi, Speaker of the Us House of Representatives, said that ‘no one is above the law’.  Although I consider myself as an optimist and as much as I want to believe that this is true, but the harsh reality is that no one is above the law except the powerful.      

The world we live in is pretty much controlled by the political sector which is ultimately controlled by a higher and stronger power, money!!! No existing political system is designed to deliver an absolute justice. No law is effectively protecting the weak and delivering justice. In reality the political world is full of manipulation, secret gains, and materialism.  

Lives does not matter when it comes to political and economic gain, which brings me to the other piece of news; 

A threat of war against Iran for an alleged attack that targeted a major oilfield in Saudi, with a possible US support, the US being on top of Saudi long allies for obvious reasons (not economical AT ALL!!!) 

While on the other hand, Saudi led coalition is still booming Yemen for more than four years leaving the country and its nation in complete despair.  

Now, I know that Saudi does not have the courage to go to war on its own neither without the support of its allies and reliance on arm trades. With Saudi being the second largest arms importer in the world, one can imagine the great economic loss to the arms industry if Saudi’s international humanitarian law violations were taken seriously and LAW was applied. 

Despite all the reports that have been produced over the last four years in relation to human rights violations committed by the Saudi led coalition, no action has been taken. And even after a court order banning the arm trade with Saudi, deals were still made and people got far above the law. The consequences are, you ask? Nothing! Not yet at least.  

We live in a complete delusion that law is above all and no one is above law. We think that peace is maintained but in fact peace is being breached every single time a blind eye is turned over the violations committed globally on a daily basis. 

There is no way that the continues arm trade with one of the biggest human rights violating states is considered a way of maintaining peace, when an entire nation is on the path of being wiped out completely and the innocent is left to suffer. 

The same state is not rolling out a declaration of war over an oilfield strike that produced no casualties or lost in lives. While Saudi is pressuring for political and economic sanctions over Iran, it remains free from being subject to any of the said sanctions even though the account of human rights violations committed by the Saudi regime is much higher than that of Iran (both nationally and on other territories including Yemen). Setting another example where the law does not apply. 

You see, those who do not see this as a clear hypocrisy and manipulation of power are the ones that I feel sorry for. Unfortunately, mankind has not invented reality specs yet.  

Feel free to disagree, but ‘no one above the law’ is a lie! 

Suicide Prevention Day

Life is hard! It’s that simple! It’s that complicated! 

Life is tough and the reality is sometimes it could get unbearable!   

Every time I go through life’s tough and testing times, I always go back to the best moments of my life. The times when I was just a little girl, with little care in the world hand in hand with my grandfather (may God bless his sole) where ever he went. The endless love and kindness he represented is one of the things that give me hope that life is not always tough! That there is kindness in people, and that I don’t have to give up my own kindness to combat whatever life throws at me.  

And I came to believe, that there is a reason for everything. And so, every time I feel that life is beating me down, I rise and search for what I meant to be learning from this bad experience! No matter how hard it is, I keep that knowledge that if I wasn’t strong enough to defeat that hardship, I would not have been put against it!  

Life is full of ups and downs! I lost count of the times I thought I can’t handle life and that it was unfair to be going through that point! But I passed it when I actually thought it was impossible for me to do so.   

You have probably gone through similar emotions, when you thought that life is collapsing around you and you weren’t made strong enough to handle it. You’ve probably been through moments in life where everything but life seemed like a good option to you! Nonetheless, you’ve passed through it! You made it! And believe me if you weren’t strong enough you would not be standing trying to make sense of what is it you are going through! 

We’re all made different, and the way we deal with these emotions vary from one to the other. Look for yours, and try and to find the first step to combat that dark thought! Would crying make it less painful? Then cry! Do you just want someone to listen to you? Then look around you and I am sure you will find at least one person that is more than willing to lend you an ear!    

Remember that there are people in this world that care about you and love you for your good and for your worse. There are those who are around you, and who will give you their time gladly to listen with an open heart, mind and no judgment. Look closely and you will find them! Let them reach you and you to them! Open your heart a little bit at a time, there is no hurry in the world to rush your emotions!  

In fact, we all need to learn how to spot the signs of depression in ourselves and in those around us, our family, friends, colleagues … Lend an ear and some of your time, without judgment and just listen! Because one day you might need the same. 

Sometimes all we need is an open-minded person, a friendly voice, and a heart with no judgment. And these all are easy to be given and could go a long way.   

It is absolutely understandable and NORMAL, to be in a dark place at some point in your life! And you don’t need to search for the light! Oh, no! All you have to do is slightly open those beautiful eyes, and you will see it!  

Life is not always sunshine and rainbows! (I mean, have you seen the weather lately!!) Besides, if it wasn’t cloudy and rainy sometimes, how are we meant to see the rainbows! 

Life is beautiful! When you “Be You To Full”! Life is beautiful with you in it! 

In your own time!     

How Dictatorship Begins!

When I think of the atrocities occurring globally on a daily basis, and how horrifying it is to be witnessing these violations with so little to do! I think, how could that have occurred? How is it that people are willing to turn on each other, kill and torture with such inhumanity?   

Knowing fully, as it is the case with anything in this life, that this is a matter of process and never could be a sudden occurrence! Do you genuinely believe that a person, a dictator, out of the blue would become a leader and have the ability to conquer an entire nation to do as he or she demands?  

It is a simple, yet a very complicated and dangerous formula! Propaganda, greed, fear, justification of that which should never be justified, and silence! 

A dictator is helpless and powerless without those who carry out his/her orders and never question them. And so, they are not only aiders to that oppression but they are (individually) oppressors!  

The prison guard that holds the innocent in because they spoke against the injustice or protested peacefully, is an oppressor. The ones holding their weapons and pointing them towards the innocent, are oppressors! The one carrying the prosecution that is based on the whim of the ruler and only serves the purpose of that ruler, is an oppressor!  

The ones providing or trading arm weapons with an oppressor are oppressors in their own initiative! And equally as guilty (if not more, in my humble opinion.)  

Apply this to every global issue and you will find that the circle, of those guilty of the atrocities we witness today, is huge and includes almost every state leader, government, arms and security company, etc. An almost endless list that make it seem that we are on a ‘no turning back’ point, and make our surrender easier than our resilience! 

Each time we stand silent in the face of injustice, inequality, oppressive behaviour, and inhumanity; not only we allow that dictatorship to be born but we advance it, we grow it a bit by bit further! In a way we become our own oppressors! 

Our daily life might make it hard, difficult, and sometimes impossible for us to focus on other issues that have a greater impact on our future (near or far)! At the end of the day, each one has to find their way of making a living, establishing themselves, having a family… And yes, it is very (very very) hard to focus on all of the global issues we have, global warming and pollution, civil wars, oppression, hunger, inequality etc. But, I believe, that we are brainwashed to think that all of us as individuals can only do little and so the power of our unity collapses and we end up having more issues tomorrow than we had yesterday! Consequently, that believe deepens tomorrow and so on and so forth! 

Dictatorship begins where a nation is fearful AND silent! Without a silent nation a dictator has no chance of existence! As such, for an oppressor to exist there has to be an act of oppression if succeeded a dictatorship not only begins but also thrives! 

So, let us speak up! Let us take actions! Let us stand for what really matters! Our lives, our rights, our environment, and that of the generations to come!  

Most importantly do not be an oppressor! Do not be an aider!  

********AND DO ONT BE YOUR OWN OPPRESSOR!!

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Celebrate Freedom, Don’t Oppress It!

It goes without saying, that we live in a much better world now compared to 70 or 80 years ago. We have scientifically more freedom (not ‘rights’, because these are inherited by our nature as human beings), better health care, faster and more reliable communication methods. I do realise that we could argue the opposite, but that is another topic.  

Generally speaking, we are more advantageous in terms of practicing our freedom, or at least we are entitled to by the law, society, and technology advancement.  

The entire calendar year is full of days to celebrate and commemorate significant events. To name a few; the 2nd December, the International Day for Abolition of Slavery; 8th March, International Women’s Day; or for instance, yesterday (19th August), we celebrated the International Humanitarian Day! A day that remarks and “advocates for the safety and security of humanitarian aid workers, and for the survival, well-being and dignity of people affected by crises.”

The reason we have such international days, or national days, is to celebrate human movements in advancing the way we live our lives today. We celebrate the souls that sacrificed themselves for what is ‘right’ for the human race.  

Today women in the UK have the right to vote! Can we imagine the situation today if the Women’s Suffrage movement did not exist, established, or continued to fight for the right for women to vote? 

Would women be given the right to vote if no woman rose and claimed that right?  

Would women in the so-called Saudi be allowed ‘legally’ to drive if women activists such as Loujain al-Hathloul did not speak loudly for that right to be claimed?     

I have always believed that ‘rights’ are taken and never given. You cannot ask for what is yours, but you can always ‘claim’ it, if you dare! 

Now, imagine this! If we took our rights today for granted, if we turned a blind eye on every human rights violation (nationally and internationally) what would happen?  

Turn around you and look at the world today, human rights oppression is expanding again and we are doing little to stop or even speak against. Certain topics became a red line for us to discuss and the common response we see is a head shake in disapproval.  

Don’t get me wrong, I am guilty of the above as much as everyone else and when I speak of change, I am starting with myself first. But I only have one request, that you don’t look at yourself as an individual whose actions are less of an impact to the world around you. Do not think you are a small stone that cannot stop the immense waves.     

This is the rhythm of life; it never stays on one way or the other and change happens rapidly leaving us the freedom to choose! The choice whether to be a random object and be washed by the tremendous waves of life, or be a standing mountain together and change the direction of waves to what suits us as a human race in unity. 

Our unity, empowerment to each other, and compassion is the key to an even better world for our next generations.

Celebrate your freedom! Do not oppress it! 

Random Thoughts Series: “Forgiveness!”

A man saw a snake burning to death, so he reached with his hand to help the snake out of the fire. The snake bit the man causing the man to drop the snake which fell right back into the fire. The man then reached with a stick to get the snake out of the fire again and saved its life.  

Someone who was watching that happening questioned the man and said “the snake bit you, and you could’ve just let it burn!” the man then replied “It’s the nature of the snake to bite, but that’s not going to change my nature, which is to help!” 

Many of us and at some point in our lives go through some difficult times, we get hurt or (God forbid) someone else gets hurt by us, our words, or actions.  

The way we deal with these emotions varies from a person to the other. But, do we ever forgive? Do we completely move on? When we leave these situations, do we leave the past completely behind us? Or do the negative emotions come back to haunt us every once in a while? 

It is completely understandable, in my opinion, that sometimes it is hard to completely forgive those who hurt us. And, equally reasonable to have the negative feelings visiting again. At the same time, a negative feeling is a negative feeling, that only impacts the person holding on to it. 

In my belief, we don’t ‘get over’ someone or over the fact that we got hurt. But if we are lucky and strong enough, we adapt to that feeling and learn to channel our energy and emotions to appreciate every good moment in our lives. We learn to trust again, and most importantly to trust in ourselves.    

Life is full of ups and downs, sometimes downs more than ups, but living it trapped in the past and its miserable emotions will only waste the time of our present and delay the brilliant future we meant to have.  

There are no guarantees in life that we shall never get hurt again. We need to accept that risk in everything we take, merely because we have confidence in ourselves that we are capable of dealing with every situation we go through, good or bad, in the best way possible. 

Being hurt should not impact our present life, and if it does then we should learn gradually to release ourselves from that pain. Having said that, we need our time to heal and we can definitely do that while going about our lives and growing.  

As a self-defence mechanism, we might choose to lock our hearts and emotions in a bulletproof box and throw it in the deepest oceans (where probably we are going to hire a mythical beast or two!!) But think of the endless possibilities of happiness that our fate is holding for us.  

Take your time in healing and if you are lucky to have people around you that will be more than willing to lend an ear that listens, a shoulder to cry on, or deep hearted and honest pep talk with no single judgment, then give them the chance to be there for you!  

Life is all about give and take, and endless amazing possibilities that would be of a great shame to miss!  

Search for that positive self within you and you shall see how incredible it is what you could do and achieve if you channel your energy correctly. Love yourself with all your flaws and learn to accept that the past belongs to the past. And all those who hurt you, intentionally or unintentionally, belong there too.  

And just out of curiosity, what mythical beast would you choose??   

War as a Conflict Resolution!

“The War to End all Wars” a term used to describe World War I, in the hope that it will indeed inspire mankind, by observing the scale of atrocities caused during the war, to never use war as a way of resolving any political conflict. (for a greater reflect on this point see this article). 

Was that vision correct? Arguably and evidentially it wasn’t! 

Many wars did follow; starting by the WWII and until our present time, with more than 10 ongoing armed conflicts and civil wars. To name a few; the war in Afghanistan, war in Yemen, war in Syria, the conflict in Myanmar, conflict in Nigeria, conflict in the occupied Palestine, and the list goes on. 

Some of these wars, and armed conflicts, have been given more highlight and attention globally. This goes back to the fact that global media focuses, understandably and so ununderstandably at the same time, on the areas where the conflict will more likely have an impact on the main global powers. 

Going back to my main question here; is war the right way to end any of these conflicts? Can violence be demolished by violence? Have we not learned anything from the atrocities of the two world wars, the wars before that and the wars that followed?  

Looking at the advancement of military weapons (chemical, biological, atomic, … etc) will only show us that mankind does not intend to end war, instead a speedily progressive industry was created for war.  

To be realistic, I do not believe that diplomatic negotiations will always work their magic. I believe, bitterly, that both soft powers and hard powers are in need to solve armed conflicts and based on the type of conflict and the gravity of human loses. (for more on soft and hard powers see here.) 

 But who gets to determine when a military intervention is acceptable? And at what point?  

International law provides a layout of these conditions;  

 Article 2(4) of the United Nations Charter prohibits the use of force “against the territorial integrity or political independence of any state” and that any dispute between any of the states to be resolved in a peaceful manner, Article 2 (3). In addition, states should respect other states’ decisions that affect their internal affairs, Article 2(7).  

The UN Charter gives two scenarios where the rule of non-intervention does not apply; in case of self-defence or where the international peace and security needs to be restored, (Articles 51 and 42 respectively). 

This remains ambiguous as to what is considered a breach of ‘international peace and security’. Does the targeting of innocent civilians in a given state shakes that international peace? Or would the mass-killing of a protected group, that is arguably classified as a genocide under international law (in particular Convention on the Prevention and Punishment of the Crime of Genocide), by their own government be considered an internal affair? What is ‘international peace and security’ and where do these borders lay?  

In my opinion, this is determined on the ‘global’ interest that unfortunately have neglected the interest of the lost lives of innocent civilians. The so-called international peace and security is not threatened if the atrocities are contained within a given area and where arm sales are making the stokes’ market alive!  

In an ideal world, war would never exist in the first place to be solved by another war. But in our world, wars do exist and they will remain because of our human hunger to power in its all kinds and types (economical, political, religious etc). But will war always be the way to end a war?

Where all I can see is further advancement of arm weapon technology and competition over arm deals, the true success of war to end war remains a mystery to me! 

*Tell me your thoughts on this. Is war and armed intervention an effective way to end armed conflict and wars? *